A Healthy Marriage is the Most Valuable Resource in the Ministry, Says Rick Warren's Wife
- Kay Warren explains that it is necessary for the
- Feb 22, 2019
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Kay Warren, who founded the Saddleback Church alongside her husband, Rick Warren, says couples can only thrive together in their ministerial life if they see themselves as a "team that shares a God-given dream."
At the beginning of her husband's ministry, Kay says she was unable to be active and involved in the church due to her mother's claim. As a result, Rick and I feel emotionally distant from each other, "she said in an article on Pastors.com.
"Nothing was wrong, but we were like ships that spent the night busy with our individual responsibilities. I did not know much about what was going on in his world and he did not know much about what was happening in mine, he reveals.
Until one day Rick asked his wife a question he read in a marriage book: "Is it true that the more a woman chooses to become part of her husband's world, the more he will choose to be part of her world?" This showed that Rick wanted an opening from his wife.
Kay said thinking about "who should take the first step" may become a new problem in marriage. "That kind of thinking can become a distraction, condemning many relationships to disappointment and bitterness," she said.
"I played this game and nobody wins. I am learning to put my energy into what I want, so that we become part of each other's world. "
"You and your spouse are the most valuable resource for ministry - more than training, more than skills, more than spiritual gifts, more than anything," Kay concluded.
Rick and Kay started Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, California, in 1980 as a home Bible study. For the couple, teamwork in both marriage and ministry is critical.
"Work as a team because nothing comes automatically. We work hard to get where we are, "Rick noted. "Kay taught me more than anyone else in the world and probably vice versa."
